We have all seen the women who seem to have it frustratingly together. They look perfect, have their children all under control, never raise their voice, and they even manage a physical exercise routine. Crazy ay! I really want to be a calm parent like that!
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As for many mums, they can’t even lift that morning coffee to their lips without something going wrong. This raises a whole range of emotions, some of which are not that conducive to a positive state of mind. Staying calm and not rising to provocation is something we can all achieve – honest!
Being mindful and learning how to be attentive to our child’s needs as well as our own is a goal we should all have. With that in mind, here are some tips on being a more serene parent.
The way you react
If you are frustrated and angry, it is very easy to react mindlessly, such as by yelling. Instead, step back from the situation and observe is if you were a fly on the wall. You will realise that your child’s behaviour is not happening to you. What is happening to you is the way you react. Yes, kids can be annoying. We all know that, but perhaps close your eyes and take a moment whenever you feel that bubbling of energy rising to the surface. Those few seconds can defuse you, and you will find a better way of handling the situation. You are the adult, so use the power of your experience to your advantage.
Sleep – more of it could help make you a calm parent
Who gets enough sleep these days? But sleep is such an underrated method of staying calm. If you try to go to bed earlier and avoid alcoholic drinks or coffees, teas, or any other stimulant, you will find you will sleep better. Good sleep reduces stress and can actually make you healthier too, and that has to be a bonus as a parent.
Self-reflect
If you are upset or frustrated or displaying any other negative emotions, look inside yourself and ask why. What can you change to make it better? Maybe you can develop a self-care routine to improve your life. Remember, you can’t change other people, but you can change yourself. Negative emotions tend to be reflected back by others, so you may find that things improve overall if you can stop dwelling and pick yourself up.
Eliminate stressors in a bid to become a calm parent
Is there anything that you are doing, places you are going, toxic people, you see, etc, that are sources of stress for you? Maybe you should work out what triggers your emotions negatively and begin to eliminate them from your life. For example, are there any big issues in your life that a uk immigration solicitors may be able to help with? If you can de-burden yourself of negative things, you will be a better person and a better parent.
Look for solutions
Whatever the issue, there is always some kind of resolution. Ensure you fully understand a situation, though, before looking for an answer. Talk to your children and find out what is going on. If you can find solutions to problems your life will be easier and you will have a great sense of a job done good.
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